This is my first entry for LalaSZ blog post so please be gentle!
Last Saturday, I joined the Rainbow party at Luna. I arrived at around 9.30pm and was a little nervous as I didn’t know anyone as I’m ‘fresh off the boat’.
I’d seen the advertisement for the party in a group called EveryGays, that a friend had put me in too.
Upon arrival, I noticed that it was a little quiet but the party organizers introduced themselves as well as a few people that they were stood with.
After getting a drink from the bar, I went to join a table that had only a few people on and decided to bite the bullet and strike up a conversation with them. I’m so glad I did because they had also come alone and were very friendly.
As the night went on, more and more people started to arrive. By midnight, I’d guess that there were about a hundred people there.
There was a raffle draw for a bottle of Grey Goose and some T-shirts but sadly, I didn’t win.
If I had to say something negative about the party, I would say that the further into the night it got, the smokier the venue became.
Overall, I had a great time and am looking forward to the next party. I’ve already met up with some new friends that I made and plan to meet up with a few more very soon!
Few photos of the night!
Its almost unbelievable that being gay was considered crime until 1997 and as a mental illness in China, and only in 2001 that they took it off the list. China is known for being almost crime-free due to the absence of guns, and no homophobic-related crimes have been heard of especially in recent years. Fast forward to 2018, Shenzhen is no exception, as it is a city bustling with life and thousands of establishments catered for foreigners and Chinese alike. Since it’s an industrial city, people from all over China and all over the world come here to do business or work, and sometimes pleasure.
Due to the influence of western media, China has become more open and accepting of homosexuals. The younger generation seems to be more open and accepting, regardless of a person’s sexual orientation. This is why there are many bars and venues which are focused on western culture, which means they are accepting and open to gays in general.
Gay-friendly venues aren’t hard to find around the city, especially in Nanshan and Futian, although some are also found in the Luohu area. Much like Beijing, Shanghai, and Guangzhou, the Shenzhen gay scene is alive and well, but not too active at the moment. Places like health saunas for gay people are not very popular and are often given negative reviews for being unsafe and unsanitary. I would recommend going to Hong Kong instead if you fancy these places. Gay bars are often boring, with the people flocking to the stage when the male dancers come out, then go back to their seats after the show. Unless it’s a special theme night with a sponsoring group and special shows, men would just usually sit around talking and bobbing their head to the music occasionally.
In my honest opinion, I’ve had better experiences visiting gay-friendly bars and mingling with both locals and foreigners who are surprisingly friendly. I particularly like O-Garden, Bang Club and Pepper in Coco Park, because of the friendly atmosphere and the lively music. O-Garden plays some deep house tunes which you can shake your booty too and sometimes sing along with as well. Their music isn’t too loud, which is good because you can actually have a conversation while drinking. It’s not fist-pumping music, but it’s great when you just wanna shake a little bit and feel sexy. They have theme nights as well, and the staff is friendly and some of them can speak English. Pepper club plays more of the current popular music, as with most bars in the city. It has a decent dance floor, and some popular local and international DJ acts have performed there. Bang Club has three theme nights per week, a mix of 70’s, 80’s and 90’s music every Monday night for the nostalgic. Wednesdays are Latin music nights, and Thursdays are Latin, Caribbean and African music.
There are other bars you’d pass by as you walk through this area, like Baron, EDEN, Mojo, and Sicilia. I would dare say I haven’t been to a bar in this area that wasn’t gay-friendly, so you’re safe to patronize any of these establishments. Do watch out for special theme nights for the LGBT community. Yes, Shenzhen has an active LGBT community. Although the active Saturgays group have recently halted activities, the people behind it continue to come up with LGBT parties and fun gatherings. Shenzhen also has Pandora Parties, an LGBT-friendly party group which has recently celebrated its three years of bringing people from all walks of life together in the form of private house parties, private hotel parties, pool parties, and other special events, in which everyone is welcome.
Shekou and Luohu also have their line-up of gay-friendly places. Crazy bar has been well-known for a good 10 years, O-nana is one of the more popular venues for special themed gay parties, of course since it is a gay bar with some of the sexiest and raunchiest Chinese male dancers who perform every night. Then there’s Lili Marleen just below KK Mall, which boasts of loud and popular new music and a line-up of fine local DJ’s. Muse bar, or more popularly known as S-Muse is also gay-friendly, along with Papaya and M1 bar, which plays popular current EDM and offers free drinks to foreigners all night.
The continuing support and efforts of foreigners and locals alike have made it possible for gay men to enjoy being themselves in this city without fear of prejudice. China is moving forward and maturing into an open-minded and accepting country slowly but surely.
Though this isn’t much of a review but rather a summary of the gay-friendly locations, I hope that you enjoyed reading it nonetheless. I’m looking forward to more activities and events in the LGBT community here in Shenzhen.
(Barhopper, tinkerer, cook, music freak and time traveler).
Rock, paper… Rainbow!
Rainbow Movement is back and with a new party, HIP-HOP night at Luna Bar is on Saturday, September 22nd. If you are one of our followers or new in town you should come and Have the change to meet new people.
This Bar has been in Shekou for a while, it is one of the original places to go, I should know I used to be a regular, you can find an amazing brunch Sunday morning, with a friendly staff and good service this place is starting to open more and more to the community, They will host our LGBT+ Party
Specials for the night:
Address: Address: 1 Kangle Lu, G/F Fuzhon Hotel, Shekou Shuiwan Metro Station Exit D / 地址: LUNA酒吧南山招商街道康乐路1-1号水湾地铁站D出口
Below you can find our Qr Code for Payment
Hello Lalas! I am back, I know I said that a lot, with a new “unofficial” top! if you don´t know what I am talking about you should check out my first post: The 7 gay-friendly “Unofficial” destinations to travel in China, and to keep the tradition going I will go now for the top 7 unofficial LGBT+ in Shenzhen!
A nightclub right in the middle of the most important financial district in Shenzhen, Futian, is a club in a rooftop with great music and many specials, easy access by metro and fair prices. It is popular the ladies night on Wednesdays where a lot of people from the LGBT+ community feel comfortable and go to a party when there are no official events.
Address: No. 138, Min Tian Rd, Futian District, Shenzhen, Metro station Shopping Park Exit B 深圳市福田区民田路138号购物公园,
2. Bang Club or 邦酒吧
This is a club you don´t want to miss especially on Mondays, yes you heard right, Mondays! Also in the center of Futian District. Bang Club just as O`Garden are in the same area so you can always enjoy both locations.
Address: 138, Block B, North of Shopping Park, Min Tian Lu, by Fuhua Yi LuMetro station Shopping Park Exit B 深圳市福田区民田路购物公园北园B区138号
This Bar has some of the best craft beers in Shenzhen if you are a fan of a chill environment, good food, and especially good beer, this is the right place for you. It was a sponsor for PRIDE 2018, another place for your check out list
Hello Lalas, I’m back and with my return, I bring a topic that may be controversial for some people but I want to open the dialogue within the community because I feel that the purpose of Representation and visualization has been diverted.
Let’s start with Scarlett Johansson, maybe everyone by listening to the name we can know who she is and what movies she has been in, which are not only Marvel movies, she is a US actress, she is the best-paid actress in Hollywood with a career in More than 20 years, not only is she a veteran in the world of acting, she is someone who has training in dance and singing, she has won 1 British Academy Film Award, 4 Film Critics Awards, 1 Gotham Independent Film Award, 1 Tony Award and others . Scarlett is also a recognized activist who has supported movements such as #Metoo, is also a recognized Feminist in favor of the equal rights of women.
Now, why have I decided to make a brief introduction about Scarlett?
You probably know that Scarlett, originally, was chosen to play the role of Dante “Tex” Grill, in “Rub & Tug”, a transsexual man from the United States who was not only a Gangster, he also owned a massage parlor and died in the jail.
The news that Scarlett was chosen to interpret, in a biographical film, a transsexual man was not well received by the community. Why? Scarlett is a woman and is heterosexual, it is not the first time that she is involved in the controversy since previously it happened with her movie “Ghost in the Shell” even though in the original comic the character is a robot that is not specified to have Asian features and besides everything is internationally known that Japanese cartoons and sleeves represent their characters with non-Asian characteristics, returning to the topic the community of transsexuals has raised its voice regarding the few opportunities for transsexual people to have leading roles in movies .
Now, for me this topic was confusing and I had to talk to different people to understand the point of view of transsexual people and I want to think that I understood that what the transsexual community looks for are two things “Visualization and Representation” and it is something that everyone we should have. However, the following comes to my mind: If a transsexual man is an actor, should he only act in roles of transsexual men? Should Gay men only act in roles of gay men?
The answer is NO, and for me, it is a resounding NO because then this is a thing called “Paradox”. Gay men and women should be able to play roles based on their talent and not their sexual orientation and another question. Does not the LGBT community deserve + movies with quality performances? For me, the answer is Yes.
To talk about this I will give the example of the following: Eddie Redmayne, heterosexual, I interpret a transsexual woman in the movie “The Danish Girl”, Jaret Leto, straight and Oscar winner, I play a transsexual woman in “Dallas Buyer Club” , both actors gave quality performances that not only earned them the applause of the public but awards for the quality of their work, now let’s talk about the opposite Neil Patrick Harris, openly homosexual, is a well-known actor who has played mostly roles of heterosexual characters and what is his acting talent what has led him to be in different plays and musicals as well as being the host of the Emmys Awards and Academy Awards and is one of the 100 most influential people in the world of entertainment.
What is the problem with Scarlett then ?, I personally do not see any problem, is a quality actress, recognized and that would have given much more visualization and representation to a topic that is still making its way, as Heath Ledger did in Brokeback Mountain.
Now, let’s learn a little about the most popular Lala, at the moment, in the world: Ruby Rose.
Ruby Rose, is a DJ, model, TV presenter, and actress. She is from Australia and became famous after work as a presenter on MTV Australia. Ruby Rose began her career as an actress in 2008, 10 years of career, in a film called Suite for Fleur, was in two seasons of Orange is the New Black and had appearances in films like: Resident Evil: The Final Chapter, XXX : Return of Xander Cage, John Wick Chapter 2, Pitch Perfect 3 and The Meg.
His career has been short and with little presence to show his acting ability, personally, I think he is a person who does not stop being the eternal model beautiful, with tattoos and sexually fluid but maybe it is because he has not yet reached the role that Allows showing your acting ability. Why do I talk about Ruby Rose?
Ruby Rose has been chosen to be Batwoman, iconic character in DC comics, openly lesbian and badass, the series belongs to The CW who is already known for its different series based on DC Comics characters.
Here I will give my personal opinion, not as an expert in film that I am not, but as a great fan of comics that I have been since I was very small: Ruby Rose is beautiful, I do not know her but surely it must be super fun hanging out with her but she is not a good actress and her flat way of interpreting in each movie or series that I have seen has left me with a bad taste in the mouth as to how Batwoman will perform and it is here where I think we are sacrificing acting quality.
There is a huge list of openly LGBT + actresses who have acting quality but there are also a lot of acting heterosexual actresses who could represent Batwoman and make it iconic (Xena of Lucy, anyone?)
Anyway! This is my opinion, let me know what you think by leaving a comment. Follow our blog and as they say out there
Rock, paper, Lalas!
Hello Everyone, we have talked before about the very iconic Rainbow FLAG. Now once again we will talk about the FLAG and how it has changed to be more inclusive
Who designed it?
Daniel Quasar, a designer based in Portland, he felt that LGBT flag should be visually separated from the newer stripes, as well as to “shift focus and emphasis to what is important in our current community climate.”
“When the Pride flag was recreated in the last year to include both black and brown stripes as well as the trans stripes included this year, I wanted to see if there could be more emphasis in the design of the flag to give it more meaning,” Quasar explained
Last year there was a new design, this was to include black people and brown. However, it was necessary to include the trans who are also a ministry within the community
“When the Pride flag was recreated in the last year to include both black and brown stripes, as well as the trans stripes, included this year, I wanted to see if there could be more emphasis in the design of the flag to give it more meaning,” Quasar explained
What do you think about the flag?
Today let’s talk about sex….safe sex!
This post is not to tell you whether or not you should have multiple partners, I do not judge, this post is to tell you how to have sex, lesbian sex, in a safe way. Despite all of the available information, I know that there are still someLalaswhohave questions, curiosity or just want to learn a little more.
Why is it important to practice safe sex?
The biggest thing you want to do prevent is the spread of STDs(or STIs), they are real and yes, women who sleep with other women are also at risk.
I will try to give you my top tips, with some help from Google and my personal experience, according to the three“kinds” of sex that can be practiced between two (or more) women.
This doesn’t mean that there are only three sexual positions, there are actually many of those!
If you’re looking for our information on positions, check out this post: Kama Sutra for Lesbians
One: Oral Sex
Oral sex is probably the most common and probably the most obvious practices between lesbians and yeah baby! Oral sex is fun if you find the right partner. What is my advice to you if you want to go down on that beautiful girl and give a nice kiss to her VaJJ but you just met her in a club/bar/coffee shop/flower shop/Restaurant?
Advice: Don´t do it! Don´t have oral sex with someone you just met!
Reality: You most likely will totally ignore my advice and you will have awesome oral sex, I hope it is. Now the following question would be, how do you have safe oral sex?
There is a product on the market that is made to be used during oral sex and that is a Dental Dam.
It is a square of rubber, latex, or other non-permeable material about 8” by 6” to 10” by 8” in size. It is used as a barrier or protection so there is no direct mouth-to-genital or mouth-to-anus contact during oral sex. You may think it is hard to find Dental Dam in China but in fact it is not,you can buy them on Taobao or Baopals (English version of Taobao, if you cannot find the product as Dental Dam just copy paste the link of the shop from Taobao in the search section of the web) by looking for them with thisname口爱膜(Kǒu ài mó), they are not expensive and you should always keep one in your bag and your house.
If you happen NOT to have Dental Dam you can always use a condom, in fact, I consider that regardless of your sexual orientation you should always keep a condom in your bag/pocket/wallet/house as you can cut the condom to a square and use it to avoid direct contact.
Remember to maintain good oral hygiene, wash your mouth at least twice a day, use mouthwash, floss and keep your body parts clean.
The rule number one for this is: Keep your hands cleans, especially your nails!
Penetration is also a common practice either using your hands (Fingering is real yo!) or using a toy. The best way to be safe is by using a condom or disposable latex gloves (手套乳胶). Condoms are easy to find in China as they can be purchased in most convenience shops. You must remember to use a different condom if you are sharing a toy (Yes, lesbians can like toys.They can be fun and it is ok).
Three: Tribbing or Tribadism
Yes, People, scissoring is a thing and if you don´t believe it you have been doing it wrong!
Unfortunately, there is not really a good way to have safe sex when you practice tribbing when both genitals are into direct contact but there are other areas of your body´s partner that can work for tribbing as this is not exclusive of only genitals vs genitals. Just avoid direct contact.
Alright my Lalas, keep it safe, keep it clean and enjoy your sexuality! No judgment here!
Side Note: No matter if you’re using a mouth, toys, or fingers, don’t go from an anus to a vagina. There are all sorts of bacteria that belong in a butt and not in a vagina so don’t mix them!
Do you wanna get test it and you don´t know where to go?
Shenzhen Shekou Medical Center, this is a clinic where they speak English and have a good appointment service and usually accepts insurance if you are not covered they also have a good price for services – English Services