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Popular sex toys for Lesbians

I thought of sharing a few popular toys to make your Moanday, Tongueday, Wetday, Thirstday, Freakday, Sexday and Suckday a bit more interesting!


The harness and Dildo:



This could be great for Freakday! Make sure when you purchase this one to pick the suitable one for you and your partner!

Both penetration fans, you can use a double-sided dildo like the Feeldoe in many of the harnesses so that the wearer and the receiver are both getting what they seek. Boom.


We-Vibe Rave



The We-Vibe Rave is a high-tech vibrator with ten vibration modes and a corresponding app. Lesbian couples are very often long distance, and the Rave enables you to take Skype sex up a notch when your girlfriend downloads the app on her phone and controls the vibrator from a million miles away.

Could be good for Moanday!


Minna Ola



The Minna doesn’t have settings, it responds to your touch. The more pressure you put on the Minna, the more intense the vibration. It’s like a smartphone for your vagina.

Maybe a Thirstday!


The Water Bunny



Waterproof high quality vibrator with rabbit clit stimulator. Coated with soft
pliable silicone. When you want to be shaken inside and outside while in that warm soapy water!

Could work for Wetday!


Finger Extender


Its ergonomic design , conceived to accommodate two of your fingers, very effectively complement these. So long, your knuckles will gain strength and length novel, while control … enough to turn the head to everyone.

Sexday maybe ..




No need to say anything about this one. Suckday it is!


For Tongueday – Being eaten out is a beautiful thing! I do not think any toy can even come close to that feeling!


All toys can be purchased online or feel free to join our LalaShenzhen WeChat group. We know of a shop here in Shenzhen were you can find interesting toys.






Another day in Cambodia

I’ve been back in China for a while now and I still miss the sound of music playing in the background, a little bell ringing for an order that is ready, water splashing from the swimming pool and the joy and excitement in stories told by each backpacker to another.

Well, here is my story of being in Cambodia.

At the second day of being in this magical place, I got into the routine of waking up at noon, taking a shower, walking down the steps and ordering the best ( and yes, I mean the best ) banana smoothie made in this huge jug and a different breakfast each morning. I would decide what adventure to take on, what museum to see or just enjoy the sunny day next to the pool with either more banana smoothies or a cocktail. Time does not exist when you are on vacation, so feel free to drink that cocktail at 10:00 AM!

This does sound like an amazing vacation, so here’s the twist!

Two weeks before the date of leaving for Cambodia I asked my girlfriend to come with me, 7 days of no work and exploring! How exciting! Plus it would be the first trip I would take on with my partner! Yes, if you are wondering I’ve never been on a couples trip to another country! So I’m bursting with excitement!

Unfortunately, she could not join the entire trip, only the last 2 days. Meaning we would fly back to China together. This already made everything great! I get to spend two days with my favorite person in such a cultural place!


This is still the good part!

Days have passed and only two days till I leave!

I get this text message from a friend saying she will join me in Cambodia the first week and leave the Sunday night my girlfriend arrives! Wow, could things get any better?

The two days passed slowly but it finally came! Our flight left at 18:00 PM so we left our places around 15:00 PM and arrived at the airport at 16:00 PM all excited and ready to take on this journey!

Standing in a line for nearly 30 minutes,finally we made it to the front! Super excited!

The excitement stopped there.

We got told my friend cannot go to Cambodia for certain reasons that made us both go into fighting mode and my passport number was incorrect. Struggling for an hour to solve all this, I got on the airplane alone and she went to my girlfriend’s house for wine and cheese.

At this point, I didn’t know if I should be happy or upset.

First, I’m going to Cambodia, Woooo! Without my friend, Ahhhh! No work for one week, just exploring and sipping drinks, Woooo! She gets to spend a relaxing night with my girlfriend that I already miss, Ahhhh!

Just a little bit of what is going on in my head at that moment.

I video called my girlfriend before boarding, told her the entire story while drinking my fruit shake and slowing eating a croissant.

Trying to lift my spirit up she made a silly joke saying she can’t come, I did not take it as a joke so I will end this part of the story right here.

Two and a half hours later I got to sit in a “tuk-tuk” ( this is hard to explain, maybe just search it if you do not know what it is ) on my way to our accommodation. I got a few tips from friends saying the amount I should pay from the airport to accommodation, that made me feel cool and calm.

Finally, I got to the hotel, paid double the amount I was supposed to, not so cool and calm anymore.

Booked in, left my bags in the room, ordered a beer and smoked a cigarette after this long day!

Like I said the second day I already got used to waking up like this!

Everything turned out just fine and well being an amazing first few days on my own!

Met new friends, got to go to this amazing Sky Bar called “Eclipse” with a view over the city and a tour walking around the markets, Royal Palace, Independent Monument and exploring new places to show my other half when she arrives!

Time flew by and Sunday finally arrived! I enjoyed my day by spending time next to the pool, having the best banana smoothies ever and ending with a few beers talking to new friends I met!

Still four more hours, then I get to pick up my girl from the airport, so we killed the time by sharing backpacking stories and the life here in China since they never been. I did tell them the LGBT+ community is great since the one girl said she’s bi-sexual.

Let’s skip the rest and get to the part of actually having my girlfriend with me now! Picked her up and all settled in at our accommodation.

We stayed up a little longer planning to go to the Sky Bar, that ended up to be closed when we arrived. Although we did get to play with puppies on our way there so it pretty much made my night!

The first night, BEST SEX EVER AFTER BEING APART FOR 5 DAYS! I know, it is not even that long!

The two days went by extremely fast! Woke up on Monday with breakfast in bed and after we explored the Genocide Prison, that was quite a sad experience and ended the night with dinner and a few drinks or maybe a lot…

Tuesday waking up with someone being a bit hangover, getting a nice breakfast downstairs and yes with my banana smoothie we planned our little adventure for the day!

We ended up going to the Killing fields to create the full picture of what happened 30 years ago in such an amazing place and after cheering yourself up by going to the Central Market so that my girlfriend could buy every dress she sees. I had fun carrying all the bags!

We planned to go out for dinner, but yet again the rain decided to keep us inside! We had a nice dinner at the hotel with one of our friends ( the bi-sexual one ) and went to bed early since our flight back was at 7:00 AM.

Again, being all excited since it is our first flight together! We ended up sleeping anyway but it was still a great flight being able to hold her hand most of the time and making silly jokes!

Sadly we left one day before a big LGBT event, but I’m sure I’ll attend it someday in the future!

Hands down an amazing trip! Maybe not from the start but I had time to be by myself and enjoy the small things in life, being able to walk barefoot, meet locals and just see the smiles on the people’s faces.

It is sad that something so tragic happened to them but I’m so happy to see that they stood up from it all and are growing more and more each day!

They have taught me to be grateful for so much more and I do thank the place and the people for that!

I’m sure you are already planning your trip to Cambodia, if you are, make sure to learn about their culture, their ways, and the history because it is truly amazing!

How do I handle my first lesbian relationship?

I’m straight but I’m starting to question my sexuality, so how do I know if this is something I really want or if it is just a phase?

Here are a few questions you might ask yourself with a few tips that I hope you can find help if you are in a situation like this!

1. Will our period sync?

Some say “Duh” and others say they do not know, to be honest, I can´t give you the answer to that one but I do hope it does happen.


2. Will I feel weird with public affection?

At first, it might be a bit strange if you care what other people think and depending on the area that you are at. Some women who are in long healthy relationships still feel uncomfortable and other women care zero amounts of what other people think or may say.

It will all depend on you and what you are comfortable with.


3. How do I know if a woman is romantically attracted to me?

The easiest thing is to just ask, of course, it can be awkward but only if you make it awkward. If she identified herself as a lesbian it will be easier for you to pick up a flirty vibe from her side but also remember she could also just be friendly. Just because she is a lesbian does not mean she is automatically attracted to you.

If you ask and get a “No” as an answer because she did not flirt. Do not feel bad, it is better to know sooner than to do something you will later regret.


4. Does one need to be more manly?

No. If you are a butch or a fem, it is your choice. There are no rules to this! If you both feel like being butch then go ahead. Whatever makes you happy!


5. Whose pay the bill when we go out?

Few of my friends asked me this question before since their boyfriends will take them out and pay for dinner and they wondered how does it work with lesbians? No rules. Most of the time girls will share their bill or if they feel cute they will take their partner out for dinner and pay for it. it is like you buy me a drink and I buy you one after kind of deal.


It is nice to share responsibilities.


6. I do not know how to have sex with a woman.

My advice, trust yourself, you`ve got this! Most women will tend to look on the internet but it will only bring up more stress to do it that way and most details on the internet you should not trust at all!

The right one will talk to you about it and will be patient with you.

Don´t stress too much about it, just let it happen naturally.



7. Do I need protection for lesbian sex?

I won’t go too deep into that question since we have an entire post about safe sex, just scroll down our page and you will find it.


8. What if we have sex and I hate it?

I guess you need to ask yourself what gender you prefer. Remember sex is about a lot more than just playing around but about love also. The moment you fall in love everything else will fall in place too.


9. Are we moving to fast?

Lesbian relationships tend to move faster than straight relationships, at least is a common belief. I guess if you know you know. That is something only you and your partner can discuss. If you feel like things are going as they should then good for you! Do what makes you happy.


10. Coming out to family and friends.

This one could be hard or easy. Friends are easy to come out to since they will support you no matter what (if they don´t they are not real friends) and only want to see you happy!

The family might take a while, before you tell them, make sure you are 100% honest with yourself about your feelings and that you feel comfortable with yourself. They might find it hard in the beginning but everything will work out just fine in the end!


I hope I was able to answer a few of your questions!

Now go have fun with that girl.

Around the world

Being on the road most of my time made me realize how much I miss home, and yes, if you were wondering, I’m from South Africa.

A place with so much cultural that everything you see has a story of its own.

A place that is filled with nature that died out from not getting enough rain.

A place where you will see people standing next to the road selling fruits or just something traditional made by their families.

A place that I most feel at home!

My time here in China has made me realize that no one really knows how amazing South Africa is.

I get questions such as:

“Do the animals walk in the street?”

 I’m proud to say that we have the Big Five native to our land (lion, leopard, rhinoceros <both black and white species>, elephant, and Cape buffalo) and animals can walk freely in wildlife camps or safaris without being trapped in a cage.

So my answer is NO, they don’t walk down the streets, shopping in the local grocery shops, but they do have their own home that you can feel free to visit and experience the beauty of being around their presence.

“Do you guys even have big buildings?”

Like any other town, we have big buildings, yes.

The Capital city is Cape Town and it is quite breath-taking with a beautiful beach you can spend your summer days at.

What I can add is, every city has his own story.. and once you know that you will truly see the beauty behind each building and not just the big shiny ones.

“Sorry to ask, but why are you white?”

I hope no one takes this one too personally as it is quite funny!

The answer to this is simple… look up colonialism!

I am who I am and I’m sure you will get a huge shock when you visit South Africa and realize it is the total opposite of what you thought.

Enough with the questions, for now, let’s get a little more in depth with the details of the trip and the great LGBT+ scene there!

The first Pride I attended was in South Africa, it was not as big as in other countries but it was definitely one to remember!

It was quite hidden until the day of the event so no one really knew about it! The day I arrived in Cape Town I had already seen posters up with the Pride date coming closer and I was so amazed!

For a small place that not a lot of people know, they are growing quite fast! The joy felt by me was indescribable, just seeing people being proud of who they are!

Of course, I was sad that I could not attend this event in my home town but I knew China had another plan for me.

On my way home, I saw all the lands of farmers dried out and remembered we were struggling with water, I couldn’t have felt emptier that I know we have no idea what is actually going on in other countries, it made me open my eyes again to how privileged I am. Then again, as the farmers always said, with a little bit of faith and hope everything will be fine! And it turned out to be!

My days passed so quickly, maybe it was because of the jet lag and I woke up at 4 AM each morning and went to bed at 7 PM the first week.

All the time that we had I mostly ate, slept and spent time with my family, that is what it is all about, isn’t it? Seeing your family after so long! But I would be lying if I said all the time.

I took a day or two to just admire the beauty of Africa

  • The people
  • The buildings
  • The old traditional huts
  • The animals
  • The clear sky
  • Each night having a million stars above you
  • People driving on the wrong side of the road
  • The food
  • The languages
  • The club music
  • The traditional music

I heard a lot of people saying “don’t go there, it is dangerous”, well everywhere is dangerous.

I’m not going to lie and say it is the safest place on the planet but I would be lying if I said it’s not worth the visit.

My final days couldn’t go slow enough, I spent my time saying goodbye to old friends, saying hello to new LGBT+ friends I met along the way, eating as much traditional food as I could and just spending time with loved ones!

And of course, seeing the most powerful animal ever that made me realize how small I am, the elephant.

I don’t want to bother you further with my amazing trip, so I will leave you with …

If you ever feel like getting lost in nature, taking hiking trails that will lead you to unknown places, climbing in caves and seeing drawing from millions of years ago, jumping in pure mountain water, feeding any animal that you desire, talking with the natives and learning their ways, getting to know a few more LGBT+ bars and people along the way, beating the heat and cold and well maybe just finding yourself under a million stars… I know a place.

Feel free to take a trip there, I promise it will be an adventure of a lifetime!

My roommate is straight and it is PRIDE MONTH!

Let’s start with how I’m extremely sad that I cannot go to all the PRIDE events during this month! I’ve been overflowing with excitement since the beginning of the year for this.

I guess I’m not the only one who needs to sit at work while others are busy getting their face painted, jumping into swimming pools and parading through streets being proud of who they are.

Instead, I need to go home and hear about all the “straight” things my roommate has to talk about …

What could be worst?

Some may only show their wild side during this month, feeling free and doing whatever they feel like doing, we feel like it’s PRIDE Month every Month!

If you are truly proud of who you are, you will show it all the time and have the same amount of fun the whole year, just don’t over-do it; you might go a bit too crazy! Then again crazy was never a bad thing!

So here it is, PRIDE MONTH with my roommate!

I could never really complain since she is my best friend and show me all the cute girls when we go out or tell me the ones she does not approve, not that I always listen!

So thank you for the support Roomie!

I could not think of a better straight person to take to PRIDE events since most of her friends fall under the gay radar or she is just handling LGBT+ people flirting with her really good so well done to you!

Normally we would both just die on weekends with work and lose our minds and names during the week but now that PRIDE events are only on weekends I’m sure I can convince a straight person, that she has to be up at 7 AM the next morning, to go to LGBT parties with me! Lucky for me I have a great excuse, the last event will be on my aging day so she doesn’t really have an excuse then!

Here’s a tip, plan something big so that they can’t say no and if it doesn’t always work!  Plan carefully!

Then again? Who said PRIDE is only for LGBT+  souls?

No matter who you are, come and join us! I’m sure you won’t be the only straight one since I’m dragging my roommate with me!

My story seems pretty average by living with a straight roommate, you might have the different experience as being a “lesbian” and your “straight” roommate may not know it yet?

This may be a great time to tell her, or keep hiding that you will be going to LGBT+ parties?

Tell her it will be fun to experience and you are going just go check it out after that tell her you liked the scenery and keep the talk to whatever you feel like saying after that!

Still, Why be ashamed of who you are? PRIDE MONTH is crazy as hell and who would want to miss that just because your roommate is walking on a straight line? Show her a bit of the wild side!

She/He might judge you and tell you to move out if they are a crazy person or they will support you no matter what and you just drag them to each party like I’m doing with my roommate!

Or you can be in the situation of having a shared apartment and you don’t even know your roommates?

Well, I’m sure they will be wondering why you are full of colors each night and bringing a new friend home?

Have fun, you are here only once!

So ending my story, never be ashamed of who you are, and never feel like you need to hide the real you from people closest to you! Go wild and make memories that you will talk about or as my roommate does … Tell everyone what I did and I will be crawling away in my shame!

That is a friend, embarrassing you in front of everyone but make sure you get a good story also of taking your STRAIGHT roommate to an LGBT+ party! There’s always a juicy story behind that!

There it is, we didn’t choose to be gay, we just got lucky!

If you are joining any of the Shenzhen Pride events, don’t be shy and join our Lala group! It’s always nice meeting new people along the way!

& Stay safe + protected!


If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun! 

So we have decided to give you a list of all the places to go for Ladies’ Nights from Monday to Friday!

“Please keep in mind that these locations are in Shenzhen.”


eeeEvery Monday:



“Mondays at O! Garden never fails to bring the best music for dancing to. With a mixture of Hip-Hop and Rap, the DJ is always on point. The crowd is diverse, and in good spirits.  This is constantly a great spot to hear a mix of many genres of music including Old School, Hip Hop, Dance and Top 40. If you love to dance, O! Garden is the place to go.” 


  • 100 RMB for a bottle of Whiskey with 4 cola cans.
  • 4 HOURS of FREE mixed drinks from 8pm till 12am.



Ladies get 50% OFF on Brazilian BBQ & Buffet. 

I don’t know about you but that is definitely a place I will be seen most Mondays!

Every Tuesday:



All-new and every Tuesday, X-TA-SEA now has free drinks for ladies from 6:00PM till Midnight. 

This is a sports bar & restaurant with great live music in the background while you are busy catching up with friends over a few glasses of free drinks.

If you are a wine lover, you can buy one bottle and get one for free!

Every Wednesday:



“From 11pm to late a packed venue including a large group of dancers who come to show their moves at the rhythm of the Latin music offered by DJ Ivan Soto.”

OFFERS: “Every Wednesday the LADIES attending O! Garden drink absolutely FREE for 7+ hours! Including Beer, Vodka, Whisky, Rum, Gin, Tequila in fancy mixed cocktails.”

Music includes:

  • Reggaeton
  • Rock
  • Pop
  • Electronic Pop
  • Samba
  • Hip Hop
  • Latin Pop



From 9-12 PM FREE special drinks for ladies with amazing live music in the background!

Every Friday:



Choose from selected craft beers, cocktails or red and white wine! I’ve been there a few times and it’s definitely one of my favorite places to go for great food and craft beer!

This one is quite special!




Buy one get one free on all cocktails ALL NIGHT! 

For the ladies who loves their cocktails, this is a place you should visit! 

On a side-note, this is also the current venue for The RAINBOW Movement, Shenzhen’s newest LGBT event. 

All locations/QR codes are provided in each poster to make them easy to find! 

Leave a comment if you would like another one but this time FOOD DEALS!

Hope you ENJOY!

SaturGays presents Hanky Panky: Review


This article was written by a paying guest of this month’s SaturGays and was not written by the owner of this blog.

Where do I begin? You put on your naughty or undercover ‘hoe’ outfit and go pick the hanky of your choice!

Green – Gay

Pink – Lesbian

Orange – Bisexual

Light Pink (I guess)- Transgender

Blue – Straight / Other

Then, you place your hanky in your back right pocket if you are taken or back left pocket if you are looking, I guess that’s why they called it Hanky Panky, and I wanted to take the blue one, no reason specifically, I just like the color.

It all began by entering, getting your free drink token , stamp on your left hand, a lovely pink SaturGays bracelet and then the Hanky of your choice. I asked for mine to be a surprise and I ended up getting a pink one, well, this turned out to be the correct color for me anyway, and then I just hid it under my clothes.

First person I saw as I was walking in:

The lovely Drag Queen, shout out to you for walking in those heels for the entirety of the night!

I was looking for friends from previous SaturGays and spotted a few! Most of the crowd were new faces with all different  colors of ‘hankies’.

To be honest, I was afraid to go as I thought it would be a SaturGUYS event and not SaturGAYS but there were quite a few girls, more straight than lesbian though. Same with the guys, I could probably count the amount of lesbians in there on one hand but it was still a fun night spent meeting new people and squeezing my way onto the dancefloor.

To make it easier, here’s a list of the things which I thought were “Good” and “Not so good”:


The entire night was enjoyable with my friends.

The handsome GoGos that all the straight girls was going crazy about.(only male dancers)

The location.

All the new faces ( SaturGays will grow, but maybe put an ‘S’ at the LGBT as there will be a lot of straight people.

Meeting up with old friends.

The lighting and music.

Not So Good:

Well, drinks were pretty expensive. (The organiser of this party has told me that there was a drink offer on that consisted of drinks which were three for 100rmb, unfortunately, these drinks were not to my taste)

Only gay guys or friends got more free drink tickets, this was just my observation.

Standing for an hour to get to the toilet- there is only one unisex toilet in the establishment but I have since discovered that their were public ones that could be used next door, on a higher floor.

Late-comers didn’t get a free drink token or a hanky, even though they had paid for their ticket in advance. (This happened to a friend of mine, I cannot speak for all late-comers, only the one that was in my group)

At the risk of repetition, these are only my observations.

I was happy to see all the new faces and how the word is spreading about SaturGays but in some way, I feel the main purpose of the party’s existence is disappearing. It is no longer only an LGBT party.

This being said, thank you to the organizer for planning a fun night! I understand this was the first one you planned alone.

For those who went, I hope you also had a fun night!

I am a huge supporter of all of the LGBT activities in Shenzhen and attend all of the events that I’m able to.

I do not want this to come across as a criticism of SaturGays as the positives of Hanky Panky certainly outweighed the negatives.