Queer Eye Reboot: Gay Town, USA

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The Queer Eye for the Straight Guy reboot has a whole new cast and location and the second season just dropped (can we say “dropped” for TV shows??) on Netflix. The new Fab 5 are a diverse, fun team, and while the stories of their nominees vary from episode to episode, exploring friendships, cuisine, family, skincare, loss, hair, race, fashion, and more, the theme that weaves the show together is number one the Gay Agenda: Love.

The original Queer Eye was set in New York – a city known worldwide for its diversity. The world has changed since the original show began in 2003. The LGBTQ+ community has seen more acceptance, but also new setbacks, and the new series is relevant and fresh. The reboot is set in the southern US, based out of Atlanta, Georgia.  It takes us to small town USA, a very different experience.

Season 2 Episode 1: God Bless Gay

In the first episode of season 2, the fab five takes over the small town of Gay, Georgia to help a woman named Tammye complete a community center and welcome her gay son, Myles, back to church. While Tammye has come around to accepting her son, he is still paralyzed by fear of judgement from the rest of the church members.

Tammye emanates love to all those around her, yet we can see Myles still struggles to live. His room is a mess, a visual reflection of his feelings. With the support of five other queers, however, he is able to clean himself and his room up and bravely attend an event at the church by the end of the episode. They make the point that when you are struggling to find your own place, you must seek it out, because those communities won’t magically find you. As an example they bring him to sing with the Atlanta LGBTQ+ choir, giving him the gift of spiritual music, which he had lost when he left the church after coming out.

This episode resonated with me for many reasons. Watching Myles’s transformation touched me because most of us know how impossible it is to take care of yourself when you feel unwelcome by your community. Bobby (the designer of the show) refuses to go into the church at the beginning of the episode because he has been so hurt by church in the past. Growing up in a small religious town myself, I was bullied by Christian kids at my school and that experience turned me away from any kind of church for years. But watching this episode, hearing the gorgeous gospel music, and listening to Tammye’s speech about acceptance at the end of the episode reminded me that we can all work to break down these constructed barriers and find beauty in each other’s passions. Just as a small-town religious woman can learn to appreciate gay love, so can the fab five learn to appreciate the power and love in her church community.

The Future

Moving along into the season, episode 2 follows the love story of the cutest straight couple. Episode three gives a shy Mexican dad the makeover he needs to feel confident enough to play with the other dads from his kids’ school. Every episode so far has give me a big AWWWW and I recommend this show for some light during dark times.

I am touched by the show’s representation of our community and its constant reminders that no matter who we are we should be caring, beautiful, and lovely for ourselves as well as to each other. I am grateful for the increasing amount of queer and POC content appearing, and this show inspires me to create more! If you want to contribute by writing a blog to share with us, contact us – we are always supportive of new voices!

Shenzhen​ Stories Presents: PRIDE Quick Review

Hello, my beautiful Lalas and Rainbow people! I am back and this time with my review about what Shenzhen Stories: Pride, as you should know, or maybe not, I was one of the speakers this time! Yes! I was so nervous but I did my best to tell my story about how I came out of the closet, you will find soon the podcast of it on the official website: Shenzhen Stories SoundCloud  I hope you will enjoy it!

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*This photo does not belong to the blog but to Shenzhen Stories staff members 

My afternoon started very well when, at 6pm, I joined my very good friend Addie for dinner and after we took a slow walk to the coffee shop where Shenzhen Stories is hosted. There was a big “PRIDE” drawing on the wall, the environment was charming and relaxing, I was, of course, excited and nervous all at once. The first speaker joins, she talked about her family and how proud she is living in a more modern China.

I was the second speaker to join and after a shot of tequila, Viva México, I was brave enough to stand in front of the people and share my story, which I will share the draft bellow with you:

“Love has no shape” That was the answer that Guillermo del Toro gave when asked why the title of their movie “The Shape of water”, he said love comes to us without a specific form. I was in high school the first time I saw her, I was 15 and she was 17, her hair was reminding me of a sunset, her honey eyes were innocent. That was the shape of love for me, a girl, a woman and it felt great, every time she would hold my hand, she kissed my check, I can still remember her perfume, I was so nervous to talk to her than when we were finally introduced I called myself Lauren (My name is Laura), I came back the next day with bigger shoes (I wanted to be taller!). No one told that was love, no one told me it was ok to feel that way and when my mother found it my whole world fell apart, suddenly I was too young to know, it was just a face, she was a bad influence, my parents were getting divorce so for sure I was just trying to get attention and if I was willing to find a boyfriend I would see that was right for me and I did, I found a boy who I broke his heart’ the moment  I went to collage and met another woman that just smile at me once! A woman that I also wasn’t able to be with because I was so scared and ashamed of myself, I denied to know her when my friends asked who she was. Love had the shape of a woman and I was running away from it, I was trying so hard to represent it that I ended up in China.  The “Love has not shape” and it was at 24 when I understood that it was up to me to be happy, so I wrote one page letter to my mother, the most important person in my life, and I finally said it, as clear as I could “ I am gay and I am still the same daughter you rise me to be” that day also my mother learn that “love has no shape”. 

As you may notice, once you hear the podcast, I changed few things because when standing there in front of all those people perception changes and memories come back to you, however, this will give you guys the general idea of my story.

In the end, I think I was able to share my view of this world, where we can be free of love who we want!

Please remember to follow their website and ours for future posts! and if you wanna know who or what Shenzhen stories  visit our post about them

 

 

 

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Shenzhen Stories Presents: PRIDE

Hello my LaLas! I am back once again with very interesting post about an upcoming event I am sure you will be interested at! Next month, June, it is PRIDE month and as different way to start to celebrate to be OUT and PROUD, Shenzhen Stories will host a PRIDE night.

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If you don’t know what Shenzhen Stories is, here are few basic questions and their answers about this awesome group!

1. When Shenzhen Stories started?

December of 2016 is when we started

2. What is the goal of Shenzhen Stories?

Our goal or mission statement would be to foster international community through the art of storytelling. We think storytelling begets empathy and can begin conversations that help people understand themselves and the world around them and therefore give them he ability to make it a better place.

3. What is the website address?

3. We actually are just operating off of social media mostly. We don’t have a website yet but are working on it. Right now people can find us on all of the big social media sites @shenzhenstories

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4. How often s Shenzhen Stories hosted?

Shenzhen Stories is held monthly

5. Where is the regular venue?

 We have met several places but would probably call our home this coffee shop in Nanhai E Cool called Sculpting in Time. They are awesome!

6. How did SZ Stories choose the topic PRIDE?

We try to base our themes loosely on any given months big holiday. Fun & Games in April was inspired by April Fools Day. So last December we looked at all the things happening in each month, knowing that Pride was in June but we wouldn’t have an event in June, we thought we would lead into it and have a Pride event in May. We thought it was an important event and wanted to celebrate proud voices.

 

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La La-dorable Songs 2.0

Back with another playlist, extra extra thanks to my LaLas who left comments of their favorite songs, I’ve included them!

Pynk – Janelle Monae

The most lesbian music video ever just dropped:

Pynk is from Monae’s full-length emotion picture “Dirty Computer,” an absolutely beautiful, relevant work of art to our generation:

Paradise Girls – Deerhoof

“We like girls who are smart”

Often – Cover by Helen Tan

Whatever You Like – Cover by Anya Marina

New You – Zolita

Dreams – Fleetwood Mac

“Women, they will come and they will go. When the rain washes you clean you’ll know.”

Most Girls – Hailee Steinfeld

Here Comes the Rain Again – Eurythmics

“I want to talk like lovers do, want to dive into your ocean, is it raining with you?”

Damn, I wish I was Your Lover – Sophie B. Hawkins.

Touch – Shura

Te Amo – Rihanna

Only a girl – Gia

Borro Cassette – Maluma

Watch to the end:

She likes Girls – Metro Station

 

 

Best Apps for Picking up Girls

Honorable Mention #1: Tinder

If you’re a single Lala, I am sure you have tried Tinder. So why didn’t I ever find you? Probably because you compulsively download, delete, and re-download it due to your cycle of boredom and frustration.

Tinder is FULL of hot girls with boyfriends, looking for a unicorn. I think that’s great but I wish there could be a box to check when you’re not into couples. Not that saying you’re not into boys even works… Tinder always shows me boys anyway. So after swiping through all the unicorn hunters, my Tinder experience goes like this:

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However, due to its popularity, I still give tinder and honorable mention. If you’re looking for that wild card kind of date, or just to creep on pictures of cuties, you can always give it a go. (Just remember to be safe!)

Honorable Mention #2: Spicy/HER/Lesbian-Specific Apps

Are the girls on these even real? Where are they? In lesbian fashion, these apps don’t tend to filter based on proximity. In my experience the interfaces are not as well designed as other more mainstream apps, but again, it’s cool to look at pictures and chat with other Queerios. Who knows, maybe that girl in Seychelles will really be the one for you.

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3rd Place: Mobike

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For all my Laowai Lalas (Laolas??) I’m awarding Mobike (or Ofo, whatever you prefer between your legs) the bronze medal. Get out on that town! Keep it tight! Get your ass and legs on point!

I love biking around Shenzhen, it’s so freeing knowing I can bike as far as I want, ditch my bike, and take the subway home if I want to. Biking will get you to parts of the city you won’t discover in your usual rut. Explore your city and enjoy your single life while you can. Maybe you’ll bike up to a hidden cafe and She will be waiting for you there.

2nd Place: Wechat

Lez be honest, if you’re a Laola, Wechat is your online life. But how can you use it to meet cuties?

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  • Join queer groups!
  • Join activity/social groups – lots of hiking or sports groups out there that organize meetups. Then go to the meetups and add the cuties directly.
  • Add babes in the club when you’re out, you can text them in the morning and see if they want to share hangover coffee!
  • Start a group… For um, the community. Yes for the community. Definitely not just in hopes of meeting someone.
  • Keep in touch with your friends from home so they can comfort you when you find out that cute girl from last night has a boyfriend.

1st Place: Duolingo

Remember that awkward screenshot from honorable mention number two? Well I have the solution for how you can prepare to talk to hotties from around the world. Open up your options by learning a new language with Duolingo!

Duolingo is a free app that will teach you a foreign language through daily game-like exercises. It is SUCH a good use of your time! Lonely? Don’t worry, Duolingo will text you if you leave it alone too long. It cares about your progress! If you wake up in the morning without that someone special to text, Duolingo will be there for you. The setup is validating and rewarding, and honestly addictive. (Seriously, I have struggled with addiction with this app, but I have no regrets.)

Duolingo offers multiple languages of instruction as well as multiple languages to study. Most importantly, some of the languages offer a special section on flirting. Are you into Latinas? Want to learn how to say “Do you come here often?” “Do you want to be my girlfriend?” or “Are you lost, heaven is far from here!” in Spanish? Or are you more into blondes? Start doing those German lessons. Have a weakness for French accents? You know what to do!

The algorithm is extremely effective, and there’s nothing sexier than a smart, multi-lingual Lala like you!

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What are your tech tricks for picking up baes in the modern world? Share them in the comments!

LADIES NIGHT

If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun! 

So we have decided to give you a list of all the places to go for Ladies’ Nights from Monday to Friday!

“Please keep in mind that these locations are in Shenzhen.”

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eeeEvery Monday:

HIP-HOP NIGHT O! GARDEN

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“Mondays at O! Garden never fails to bring the best music for dancing to. With a mixture of Hip-Hop and Rap, the DJ is always on point. The crowd is diverse, and in good spirits.  This is constantly a great spot to hear a mix of many genres of music including Old School, Hip Hop, Dance and Top 40. If you love to dance, O! Garden is the place to go.” 

OFFERS:

  • 100 RMB for a bottle of Whiskey with 4 cola cans.
  • 4 HOURS of FREE mixed drinks from 8pm till 12am.

MONeewDAY LADeIES’ NIGHT ATee LATINA 

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Ladies get 50% OFF on Brazilian BBQ & Buffet. 

I don’t know about you but that is definitely a place I will be seen most Mondays!

Every Tuesday:

X-TA-SEA 

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All-new and every Tuesday, X-TA-SEA now has free drinks for ladies from 6:00PM till Midnight. 

This is a sports bar & restaurant with great live music in the background while you are busy catching up with friends over a few glasses of free drinks.

If you are a wine lover, you can buy one bottle and get one for free!

Every Wednesday:

LADIES’ NIGHT AT O! GARDEN!

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“From 11pm to late a packed venue including a large group of dancers who come to show their moves at the rhythm of the Latin music offered by DJ Ivan Soto.”

OFFERS: “Every Wednesday the LADIES attending O! Garden drink absolutely FREE for 7+ hours! Including Beer, Vodka, Whisky, Rum, Gin, Tequila in fancy mixed cocktails.”

Music includes:

  • Reggaeton
  • Rock
  • Pop
  • Electronic Pop
  • Samba
  • Hip Hop
  • Latin Pop

LADIES’ NIGHT AT TERRACE 

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From 9-12 PM FREE special drinks for ladies with amazing live music in the background!

Every Friday:

FUBAR BREWPUB

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Choose from selected craft beers, cocktails or red and white wine! I’ve been there a few times and it’s definitely one of my favorite places to go for great food and craft beer!

This one is quite special!

EVERY NON-EVENT NIGHT IS LADIES’ NIGHT! 

FADE BAR

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Buy one get one free on all cocktails ALL NIGHT! 

For the ladies who loves their cocktails, this is a place you should visit! 

On a side-note, this is also the current venue for The RAINBOW Movement, Shenzhen’s newest LGBT event. 

All locations/QR codes are provided in each poster to make them easy to find! 

Leave a comment if you would like another one but this time FOOD DEALS!

Hope you ENJOY!

RAINBOW PARTY REVIEW

The following article has been written by a paying guest of RAINBOW and the content is completely her own.She does not work for this blog or the organisers of RAINBOW.

 

Saturday was a long, tiring day. We drove through to Shenzhen for the Rainbow party. I was about to bail halfway through to Shenzhen with a headache pounding in the back of my head and a sore body but I am glad I didn’t.

Usually I won’t just head down for any night out on the town, because of distance, but when I saw posts in the WeChat groups talking about Rainbow, I knew I had to go. 

I told my partner we should arrive fashionably late, because usually people pre- drink somewhere then head over to the party so as not to be the firsts one there, we would arrive on time with everyone else. 

Not this time.

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When we got there the music was pumping, the dance floor was full and the sound of ice cubes rattlng made me thirsty and ready to party!

The location of the party was Fade Bar. Awesome location for a private party, it is not on a bar street so no randoms can ambush the particular vibe these parties hold. 

It is perfect. The bar is just big enough, the service is fast, the dance floor is solid with the DJ jamming his selected list for the night. 

 

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There is a chill area, on the left side of the bar with sofas for those who prefer the more intense chatting scene and there is a pool table, which was not used because we were having way too much fun to be distracted by a game of pool. 

Outside, there are a few chairs and tables where there were constant chatting and laughing between old and new friends.

The organisers also asked the smokers to do so outside so the non-smokers felt uncomfortable, nobody minded as we’re all friends. 

The bar, the staff and the drinks are always a winner. They had a selected list of drinks listed at various spots along the bar which made it easy for both the bartenders and the people on the other side of the bar. 

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Their service is quick and the selected menu for the food and drinks are always posted in the group before the party. You won’t be thirsty for even a second. 

I give a shout out to Emma and Laura who were the hosts of this party and a few more that I have attended in the past. Be sure to always be welcomed with a warm hug and a finger pointed towards the direction of the bar to make yourself as comfortable as you can be in your own shoes. 

You guys deserve another round of those TASTY blowjob shots traveling across the party by your shotgirl for the evening, the lovely Eryn. What a winner. 

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You can be sure count on them to have the people there on time and having a good time by the first drink.

Also, a big thank you to Joe, the owner of Fade Bar, thank you for being such a fun host and letting us invade your bar and dancing the paint off of your dance floor. I’m sure the location will be recommended for parties that awaits our insanity!

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The crowd, most of all, is what attracts me to these parties, there are the locals you see at each party and then there are a few new faces you connect with. 

This community is such a happy, free-spirited and easy going group of people that whether I walked in alone with my partner or with my friends,  I would have still had the same amount of fun I had with my friends. I believe it is not the music, nor the alchohol nor the location which makes these parties what it is.

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It is the people who attend that brings the vibe and the party. 

Another shout out to the organisers who has such a strong amount of support at these parties!

It is proof that the future parties will be nothing but successful. 

Every time, I go home with double the stories of the previous party. My suggestion to you is this: 

BE AT THE NEXT PARTY!

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There is no question. If you are a few miles too far from the city, make a trip. I do occasionally and never regret the decision to do so. They are all insanely RAD and FUN. 

Every time I leave Shenzhen, I leave with plans of moving there, then there then would be no doubt about missing a single one of these parties. 

The question you should ask  is : “ Will you see me at the NEXT Rainbow party? Sure thing. PUT THOSE TICKETS ON HOLD! 

I’ve heard the next party with be a pre-EUROVISION party on 12th May and I cannot wait!

N.S.