Best Apps for Picking up Girls

Honorable Mention #1: Tinder

If you’re a single Lala, I am sure you have tried Tinder. So why didn’t I ever find you? Probably because you compulsively download, delete, and re-download it due to your cycle of boredom and frustration.

Tinder is FULL of hot girls with boyfriends, looking for a unicorn. I think that’s great but I wish there could be a box to check when you’re not into couples. Not that saying you’re not into boys even works… Tinder always shows me boys anyway. So after swiping through all the unicorn hunters, my Tinder experience goes like this:


However, due to its popularity, I still give tinder and honorable mention. If you’re looking for that wild card kind of date, or just to creep on pictures of cuties, you can always give it a go. (Just remember to be safe!)

Honorable Mention #2: Spicy/HER/Lesbian-Specific Apps

Are the girls on these even real? Where are they? In lesbian fashion, these apps don’t tend to filter based on proximity. In my experience the interfaces are not as well designed as other more mainstream apps, but again, it’s cool to look at pictures and chat with other Queerios. Who knows, maybe that girl in Seychelles will really be the one for you.


3rd Place: Mobike


For all my Laowai Lalas (Laolas??) I’m awarding Mobike (or Ofo, whatever you prefer between your legs) the bronze medal. Get out on that town! Keep it tight! Get your ass and legs on point!

I love biking around Shenzhen, it’s so freeing knowing I can bike as far as I want, ditch my bike, and take the subway home if I want to. Biking will get you to parts of the city you won’t discover in your usual rut. Explore your city and enjoy your single life while you can. Maybe you’ll bike up to a hidden cafe and She will be waiting for you there.

2nd Place: Wechat

Lez be honest, if you’re a Laola, Wechat is your online life. But how can you use it to meet cuties?


  • Join queer groups!
  • Join activity/social groups – lots of hiking or sports groups out there that organize meetups. Then go to the meetups and add the cuties directly.
  • Add babes in the club when you’re out, you can text them in the morning and see if they want to share hangover coffee!
  • Start a group… For um, the community. Yes for the community. Definitely not just in hopes of meeting someone.
  • Keep in touch with your friends from home so they can comfort you when you find out that cute girl from last night has a boyfriend.

1st Place: Duolingo

Remember that awkward screenshot from honorable mention number two? Well I have the solution for how you can prepare to talk to hotties from around the world. Open up your options by learning a new language with Duolingo!

Duolingo is a free app that will teach you a foreign language through daily game-like exercises. It is SUCH a good use of your time! Lonely? Don’t worry, Duolingo will text you if you leave it alone too long. It cares about your progress! If you wake up in the morning without that someone special to text, Duolingo will be there for you. The setup is validating and rewarding, and honestly addictive. (Seriously, I have struggled with addiction with this app, but I have no regrets.)

Duolingo offers multiple languages of instruction as well as multiple languages to study. Most importantly, some of the languages offer a special section on flirting. Are you into Latinas? Want to learn how to say “Do you come here often?” “Do you want to be my girlfriend?” or “Are you lost, heaven is far from here!” in Spanish? Or are you more into blondes? Start doing those German lessons. Have a weakness for French accents? You know what to do!

The algorithm is extremely effective, and there’s nothing sexier than a smart, multi-lingual Lala like you!


What are your tech tricks for picking up baes in the modern world? Share them in the comments!

The importance of Having a Gay Best Friend (When You’re Gay)

“When you’re gay, your friends are your family.” -Quote from a youtube video about the L-Word


Ryn and I met because we had the same tooth-brushing schedule in the dorm bathroom. I was 19 and she was 18 when we moved into the same building. Every morning, that first week of fall semester, we would arrive to the bathroom at the same time, just the two of us. We’d brush our teeth for a full two minutes, floss, and depart. Then in the evening the same thing would happen again.

Finally one morning she joked, “I think you’re following me.”

I looked her dead in the eyes and said “No, I think you are following me.” She didn’t know me yet so she had no idea I was kidding. The next day though, she was brave enough to say:

“Well I think the universe is telling us we should be friends.” And that’s how I found my gay best friend.

We can’t remember a time that we explicitly came to to each other. We understood each other and nothing in our friendship ever precluded the truth that we both liked girls, despite the fact that we both had boyfriends when we met.

I remember when Ryn’s first boyfriend broke up with her, she knocked on my door, tears welling up in her eyes. Awkwardly, my first boyfriend was there in my room. It was a big deal because my boyfriend and I were long distance and rarely got to see each other (how convenient… we almost never had sex,) but when she told me what had happened nothing mattered to me except comforting her. Fuck my boyfriend, my friend needed love. And fuck her boyfriend too, for the record.

You might think, as boys at parties who make scissoring motions at us like to think, that after my boyfriend dumped me Ryn and I would fall in love and have passionate sex. Nope.

Instead we became the two best roommates you can imagine. We threw parties together, cooked for each other, traded chores, and gossiped about the new boys and girls that came into our lives. Through the years we created a little community of other queer girls. A world where we can be comfortable with who we are, and take care of each other.

All of us spend a lot of energy hoping to meet someone we can have a physical relationship. But how could we ever navigate romantic and sexual relationships without our friends? It’s so exciting to meet someone you want to fuck, especially if they want to fuck you too, but how lonely that excitement would be without someone to share it with!

If you’re a lost lala out there, in the closet, or haven’t yet found your queer friends, please trust me when I say you’re not actually alone. And in your search for love, remember to look for the person who loves and understands you. The one who will put your feelings first, above their new fling or romance, no matter how good the sex is. Of course it doesn’t really matter what their sexuality or gender is, as long as you love each other. But personally, I am so grateful for my lala bestie.

Thank you Ryn for being my “husband,” always and forever, and shout out to our other babes (you know who you are!)

Do you have a gay best friend that you will love until the end of time, but would never sleep with? Share your platonic love story in the comments!American Gothic

And remember to brush your teeth. 😉

La La-dorable Songs

Happy new year Lalas! For your new years present, I’ve made this super gay playlist for you. These should get the year of the dog started off nice and queer. But this is just the beginning – POST YOUR FAVORITE LALA SONGS IN THE COMMENTS! I need more music too!

Covers that make the songs La La-dorable:

“The less I know the Better” – Tame Impala cover by Nataly Down and Sarah Clanton

I love her sexy voice singing about the hot girl that got away.

“Ignition / Do You…” – Phoebe Ryan

Hot cover/mashup.

“Creep” – Radiohead cover by Haley Reinhart

I can relate to this one…

“Jessie’s Girl” – Mary Lambert

SUPER GAY cover!

Songs that are already La La-dorable:

“Make Me Feel” – Janelle MonáeScreen Shot 2018-03-04 at 20.31.44.pngI’m so excited about this brand new song and music video! The vibe is reminiscent of Prince (Monae opened for him and worked with him,) one of the most famous bisexuals ever. I’ve been a Monae fan for years, absolutely love this as her coming-out hit.

“Girls Like Girls” – Hayley Kiyoko

If you haven’t seen this yet… I don’t know what you’ve been doing. It will lead you to more super gay songs with cute girls in the videos.

“Get Away” – The Internet

Another one that will lead you to more songs about girls from a girl who likes girls.

“Cool for the Summer” – Demi Lovato

Gotta taste for the cherry, I just wanna take a bite…

“This is What Makes Us Girls” – Lana del Rey

Who hasn’t been in love with her best friend?

“Valery” – Amy Winehouse

Amy, girl, we can tell you liked girls.


“Put Your Records On” – Corinne Bailey Rae

I think in this song she’s singing to herself, but it could be about another girl, you never know!

“I’ve Told Every Little Star” -Linda Scott

Great song if you’ve got a big crush. 😉

Ok babes, now it’s your turn – post for me in the comments! xoxo

SZP Team gets another Award

Original Post source: SZP Team

继去年11月荣获由That’s PRD颁发的深圳最佳活动奖之后,深圳骄傲大家庭又接到了好消息!在1月21号举办的PFLAG深圳分会年会上,主持人向约200位热爱公益的朋友们公布了2017年最佳合作伙伴奖得主,就是咱们组织人们:SZUMMER PRIDE组委会!

After winning the Event of the Year Award at That’s Shenzhen annual award ceremony last November, more great news arrived today. At the Annual Meeting of PFLAG Shenzhen, 200 supporters witnessed the announcement of their Partner Organisation of the Year award…that’s right, it’s your team of organisers, the SZUMMER PRIDE committee!



PFLAG holds events such as outdoor sports, dating and discussion groups throughout the year, aiming to improve the lives of the LGBTQI community, promoting happy families and a tolerant society. The Shenzhen chapter has fully supported SZUMMER PRIDE in the past, and we are excited about an even deeper cooperation in the future.

That’s Shenzhen公布获奖企业/组织的页面


It Got Better – Portia De Rossi 它变得更好

It Got Better – Portia De Rossi 它变得更好


Featuring: Portia de Rossi
Directed By: Heather Ross

It got Better, What is it?

I would love to explain but I think the next quote is bette explanation…..

“The It Gets Better Project’s mission is to communicate to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender youth around the world that it gets better, and to create and inspire the changes needed to make it better for them.

Growing up isn’t easy. Many young people face daily tormenting and bullying, leading them to feel like they have nowhere to turn. This is especially true for LGBT kids and teens, who often hide their sexuality for fear of bullying. Without other openly gay adults and mentors in their lives, they can’t imagine what their future may hold. In many instances, gay and lesbian adolescents are taunted — even tortured — simply for being themselves.

While many of these teens couldn’t see a positive future for themselves, we can. The It Gets Better Project was created to show young LGBT people the levels of happiness, potential, and positivity their lives will reach – if they can just get through their teen years. The It Gets Better Project wants to remind teenagers in the LGBT community that they are not alone — and it WILL get better”



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