Another day in Cambodia

I’ve been back in China for a while now and I still miss the sound of music playing in the background, a little bell ringing for an order that is ready, water splashing from the swimming pool and the joy and excitement in stories told by each backpacker to another.

Well, here is my story of being in Cambodia.

At the second day of being in this magical place, I got into the routine of waking up at noon, taking a shower, walking down the steps and ordering the best ( and yes, I mean the best ) banana smoothie made in this huge jug and a different breakfast each morning. I would decide what adventure to take on, what museum to see or just enjoy the sunny day next to the pool with either more banana smoothies or a cocktail. Time does not exist when you are on vacation, so feel free to drink that cocktail at 10:00 AM!

This does sound like an amazing vacation, so here’s the twist!

Two weeks before the date of leaving for Cambodia I asked my girlfriend to come with me, 7 days of no work and exploring! How exciting! Plus it would be the first trip I would take on with my partner! Yes, if you are wondering I’ve never been on a couples trip to another country! So I’m bursting with excitement!

Unfortunately, she could not join the entire trip, only the last 2 days. Meaning we would fly back to China together. This already made everything great! I get to spend two days with my favorite person in such a cultural place!

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This is still the good part!

Days have passed and only two days till I leave!

I get this text message from a friend saying she will join me in Cambodia the first week and leave the Sunday night my girlfriend arrives! Wow, could things get any better?

The two days passed slowly but it finally came! Our flight left at 18:00 PM so we left our places around 15:00 PM and arrived at the airport at 16:00 PM all excited and ready to take on this journey!

Standing in a line for nearly 30 minutes,finally we made it to the front! Super excited!

The excitement stopped there.

We got told my friend cannot go to Cambodia for certain reasons that made us both go into fighting mode and my passport number was incorrect. Struggling for an hour to solve all this, I got on the airplane alone and she went to my girlfriend’s house for wine and cheese.

At this point, I didn’t know if I should be happy or upset.

First, I’m going to Cambodia, Woooo! Without my friend, Ahhhh! No work for one week, just exploring and sipping drinks, Woooo! She gets to spend a relaxing night with my girlfriend that I already miss, Ahhhh!

Just a little bit of what is going on in my head at that moment.

I video called my girlfriend before boarding, told her the entire story while drinking my fruit shake and slowing eating a croissant.

Trying to lift my spirit up she made a silly joke saying she can’t come, I did not take it as a joke so I will end this part of the story right here.

Two and a half hours later I got to sit in a “tuk-tuk” ( this is hard to explain, maybe just search it if you do not know what it is ) on my way to our accommodation. I got a few tips from friends saying the amount I should pay from the airport to accommodation, that made me feel cool and calm.

Finally, I got to the hotel, paid double the amount I was supposed to, not so cool and calm anymore.

Booked in, left my bags in the room, ordered a beer and smoked a cigarette after this long day!

Like I said the second day I already got used to waking up like this!

Everything turned out just fine and well being an amazing first few days on my own!

Met new friends, got to go to this amazing Sky Bar called “Eclipse” with a view over the city and a tour walking around the markets, Royal Palace, Independent Monument and exploring new places to show my other half when she arrives!

Time flew by and Sunday finally arrived! I enjoyed my day by spending time next to the pool, having the best banana smoothies ever and ending with a few beers talking to new friends I met!

Still four more hours, then I get to pick up my girl from the airport, so we killed the time by sharing backpacking stories and the life here in China since they never been. I did tell them the LGBT+ community is great since the one girl said she’s bi-sexual.

Let’s skip the rest and get to the part of actually having my girlfriend with me now! Picked her up and all settled in at our accommodation.

We stayed up a little longer planning to go to the Sky Bar, that ended up to be closed when we arrived. Although we did get to play with puppies on our way there so it pretty much made my night!

The first night, BEST SEX EVER AFTER BEING APART FOR 5 DAYS! I know, it is not even that long!

The two days went by extremely fast! Woke up on Monday with breakfast in bed and after we explored the Genocide Prison, that was quite a sad experience and ended the night with dinner and a few drinks or maybe a lot…

Tuesday waking up with someone being a bit hangover, getting a nice breakfast downstairs and yes with my banana smoothie we planned our little adventure for the day!

We ended up going to the Killing fields to create the full picture of what happened 30 years ago in such an amazing place and after cheering yourself up by going to the Central Market so that my girlfriend could buy every dress she sees. I had fun carrying all the bags!

We planned to go out for dinner, but yet again the rain decided to keep us inside! We had a nice dinner at the hotel with one of our friends ( the bi-sexual one ) and went to bed early since our flight back was at 7:00 AM.

Again, being all excited since it is our first flight together! We ended up sleeping anyway but it was still a great flight being able to hold her hand most of the time and making silly jokes!

Sadly we left one day before a big LGBT event, but I’m sure I’ll attend it someday in the future!

Hands down an amazing trip! Maybe not from the start but I had time to be by myself and enjoy the small things in life, being able to walk barefoot, meet locals and just see the smiles on the people’s faces.

It is sad that something so tragic happened to them but I’m so happy to see that they stood up from it all and are growing more and more each day!

They have taught me to be grateful for so much more and I do thank the place and the people for that!

I’m sure you are already planning your trip to Cambodia, if you are, make sure to learn about their culture, their ways, and the history because it is truly amazing!

How do I handle my first lesbian relationship?

I’m straight but I’m starting to question my sexuality, so how do I know if this is something I really want or if it is just a phase?

Here are a few questions you might ask yourself with a few tips that I hope you can find help if you are in a situation like this!

1. Will our period sync?

Some say “Duh” and others say they do not know, to be honest, I can´t give you the answer to that one but I do hope it does happen.

 

2. Will I feel weird with public affection?

At first, it might be a bit strange if you care what other people think and depending on the area that you are at. Some women who are in long healthy relationships still feel uncomfortable and other women care zero amounts of what other people think or may say.

It will all depend on you and what you are comfortable with.

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3. How do I know if a woman is romantically attracted to me?

The easiest thing is to just ask, of course, it can be awkward but only if you make it awkward. If she identified herself as a lesbian it will be easier for you to pick up a flirty vibe from her side but also remember she could also just be friendly. Just because she is a lesbian does not mean she is automatically attracted to you.

If you ask and get a “No” as an answer because she did not flirt. Do not feel bad, it is better to know sooner than to do something you will later regret.

 

4. Does one need to be more manly?

No. If you are a butch or a fem, it is your choice. There are no rules to this! If you both feel like being butch then go ahead. Whatever makes you happy!

 

5. Whose pay the bill when we go out?

Few of my friends asked me this question before since their boyfriends will take them out and pay for dinner and they wondered how does it work with lesbians? No rules. Most of the time girls will share their bill or if they feel cute they will take their partner out for dinner and pay for it. it is like you buy me a drink and I buy you one after kind of deal.

 

It is nice to share responsibilities.

 

6. I do not know how to have sex with a woman.

My advice, trust yourself, you`ve got this! Most women will tend to look on the internet but it will only bring up more stress to do it that way and most details on the internet you should not trust at all!

The right one will talk to you about it and will be patient with you.

Don´t stress too much about it, just let it happen naturally.

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7. Do I need protection for lesbian sex?

I won’t go too deep into that question since we have an entire post about safe sex, just scroll down our page and you will find it.

 

8. What if we have sex and I hate it?

I guess you need to ask yourself what gender you prefer. Remember sex is about a lot more than just playing around but about love also. The moment you fall in love everything else will fall in place too.

 

9. Are we moving to fast?

Lesbian relationships tend to move faster than straight relationships, at least is a common belief. I guess if you know you know. That is something only you and your partner can discuss. If you feel like things are going as they should then good for you! Do what makes you happy.

 

10. Coming out to family and friends.

This one could be hard or easy. Friends are easy to come out to since they will support you no matter what (if they don´t they are not real friends) and only want to see you happy!

The family might take a while, before you tell them, make sure you are 100% honest with yourself about your feelings and that you feel comfortable with yourself. They might find it hard in the beginning but everything will work out just fine in the end!

 

I hope I was able to answer a few of your questions!

Now go have fun with that girl.

The New LGTBIQ+ FLAG

Hello Everyone, we have talked before about the very iconic Rainbow FLAG. Now once again we will talk about the FLAG and how it has changed to be more inclusive

New FLAG 

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Who designed it?

Daniel Quasar, a designer based in Portland, he felt that LGBT flag should be visually separated from the newer stripes, as well as to “shift focus and emphasis to what is important in our current community climate.”

“When the Pride flag was recreated in the last year to include both black and brown stripes as well as the trans stripes included this year, I wanted to see if there could be more emphasis in the design of the flag to give it more meaning,” Quasar explained

Last year there was a new design, this was to include black people and brown. However, it was  necessary to include the trans who are also a ministry within the community

“When the Pride flag was recreated in the last year to include both black and brown stripes, as well as the trans stripes, included this year, I wanted to see if there could be more emphasis in the design of the flag to give it more meaning,” Quasar explained

 

What do you think about the flag?

 

Around the world

Being on the road most of my time made me realize how much I miss home, and yes, if you were wondering, I’m from South Africa.

A place with so much cultural that everything you see has a story of its own.

A place that is filled with nature that died out from not getting enough rain.

A place where you will see people standing next to the road selling fruits or just something traditional made by their families.

A place that I most feel at home!

My time here in China has made me realize that no one really knows how amazing South Africa is.

I get questions such as:

“Do the animals walk in the street?”

 I’m proud to say that we have the Big Five native to our land (lion, leopard, rhinoceros <both black and white species>, elephant, and Cape buffalo) and animals can walk freely in wildlife camps or safaris without being trapped in a cage.

So my answer is NO, they don’t walk down the streets, shopping in the local grocery shops, but they do have their own home that you can feel free to visit and experience the beauty of being around their presence.

“Do you guys even have big buildings?”

Like any other town, we have big buildings, yes.

The Capital city is Cape Town and it is quite breath-taking with a beautiful beach you can spend your summer days at.

What I can add is, every city has his own story.. and once you know that you will truly see the beauty behind each building and not just the big shiny ones.

“Sorry to ask, but why are you white?”

I hope no one takes this one too personally as it is quite funny!

The answer to this is simple… look up colonialism!

I am who I am and I’m sure you will get a huge shock when you visit South Africa and realize it is the total opposite of what you thought.

Enough with the questions, for now, let’s get a little more in depth with the details of the trip and the great LGBT+ scene there!

The first Pride I attended was in South Africa, it was not as big as in other countries but it was definitely one to remember!

It was quite hidden until the day of the event so no one really knew about it! The day I arrived in Cape Town I had already seen posters up with the Pride date coming closer and I was so amazed!

For a small place that not a lot of people know, they are growing quite fast! The joy felt by me was indescribable, just seeing people being proud of who they are!

Of course, I was sad that I could not attend this event in my home town but I knew China had another plan for me.

On my way home, I saw all the lands of farmers dried out and remembered we were struggling with water, I couldn’t have felt emptier that I know we have no idea what is actually going on in other countries, it made me open my eyes again to how privileged I am. Then again, as the farmers always said, with a little bit of faith and hope everything will be fine! And it turned out to be!

My days passed so quickly, maybe it was because of the jet lag and I woke up at 4 AM each morning and went to bed at 7 PM the first week.

All the time that we had I mostly ate, slept and spent time with my family, that is what it is all about, isn’t it? Seeing your family after so long! But I would be lying if I said all the time.

I took a day or two to just admire the beauty of Africa

  • The people
  • The buildings
  • The old traditional huts
  • The animals
  • The clear sky
  • Each night having a million stars above you
  • People driving on the wrong side of the road
  • The food
  • The languages
  • The club music
  • The traditional music

I heard a lot of people saying “don’t go there, it is dangerous”, well everywhere is dangerous.

I’m not going to lie and say it is the safest place on the planet but I would be lying if I said it’s not worth the visit.

My final days couldn’t go slow enough, I spent my time saying goodbye to old friends, saying hello to new LGBT+ friends I met along the way, eating as much traditional food as I could and just spending time with loved ones!

And of course, seeing the most powerful animal ever that made me realize how small I am, the elephant.

I don’t want to bother you further with my amazing trip, so I will leave you with …

If you ever feel like getting lost in nature, taking hiking trails that will lead you to unknown places, climbing in caves and seeing drawing from millions of years ago, jumping in pure mountain water, feeding any animal that you desire, talking with the natives and learning their ways, getting to know a few more LGBT+ bars and people along the way, beating the heat and cold and well maybe just finding yourself under a million stars… I know a place.

Feel free to take a trip there, I promise it will be an adventure of a lifetime!

Lolz in Translation

Learning Chinese is intimidating. Some tourists in China aren’t even willing to try for fear of saying the wrong thing. The following are true stories from my life.

While giving an introduction to the different kind of dances of the Dai Minority group, what my teacher actually said was: “This group of dances includes the Elephant Foot (xiàng jiǎo) Drum Dance…”

Giggling about the ridiculous image in my head, I had to ask: “The banana (xiāng jiāo) dance? How can there be a banana dance?”

That same week I came back to my room to find my roommate in a bad mood. “Ugh I’ve been working on getting this form (biǎo gé) filled out all day!” she exclaimed.

This statement left me very confused, so I had to clarify “You and your cousin (biǎo gē) have been doing what now?”

When I was having a tough time, my friend came into my room and sympathetically said “You have really born hardship.”(chī kǔ nài láo)

But thinking of the quesadilla I’d eaten for dinner, I just thought, “Why is Cat telling me that I have eaten bitter cheese?” (chī kǔ nǎi lào)

Then there was the time I ordered a veggie burger… And was awarded with a salad on a bun. Or the time I ordered a margarita and got a full glass of tequila with salt on the rim. Or asked for hot sauce and got black pepper.

Last but not least, a classic mispronounced Chinese phrase is one that almost every traveler will want to say: “I want to see pandas (xióng māo)!”

But to several foreigners’ chagrin, and their Chinese friends’ delight, the response could well be “What? Looking at chest hair (xiōng máo) sounds disgusting!”

Share your silly mistranslations in the comments!

#Safe-LaLa-Sex

Today let’s talk about sex….safe sex!

 This post is not to tell you whether or not you should have multiple partners, I do not judge, this post is to tell you how to have sex, lesbian sex, in a safe way. Despite all of the available information, I know that there are still someLalaswhohave questions, curiosity or just want to learn a little more.

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Why is it important to practice safe sex?

The biggest thing you want to do prevent is the spread of STDs(or STIs), they are real and yes, women who sleep with other women are also at risk.

I will try to give you my top tips, with some help from Google and my personal experience, according to the three“kinds” of sex that can be practiced between two (or more) women.

This doesn’t mean that there are only three sexual positions, there are actually many of those!

If you’re looking for our information on positions, check out this post: Kama Sutra for Lesbians

One:  Oral Sex

Oral sex is probably the most common and probably the most obvious practices between lesbians and yeah baby! Oral sex is fun if you find the right partner. What is my advice to you if you want to go down on that beautiful girl and give a nice kiss to her VaJJ but you just met her in a club/bar/coffee shop/flower shop/Restaurant?

Advice: Don´t do it! Don´t have oral sex with someone you just met!

Reality: You most likely will totally ignore my advice and you will have awesome oral sex, I hope it is. Now the following question would be, how do you have safe oral sex?
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There is a product on the market that is made to be used during oral sex and that is a Dental Dam.

It is a square of rubber, latex, or other non-permeable material about 8” by 6” to 10” by 8” in size. It is used as a barrier or protection so there is no direct mouth-to-genital or mouth-to-anus contact during oral sex.  You may think it is hard to find Dental Dam in China but in fact it is not,you can buy them on Taobao  or Baopals (English version of Taobao, if you cannot find the product as Dental Dam just copy paste the link of the shop from Taobao in the search section of the web) by looking for them with thisname口爱膜(Kǒu ài mó), they are not expensive and you should always keep one in your bag and your house. Captura de pantalla 2018-06-25 a la(s) 21.04.53.png

If you happen NOT to have Dental Dam you can always use a condom, in fact, I consider that regardless of your sexual orientation you should always keep a condom in your bag/pocket/wallet/house as you can cut the condom to a square and use it to avoid direct contact.

 

Remember to maintain good oral hygiene, wash your mouth at least twice a day, use mouthwash, floss and keep your body parts clean.

Two:  Penetration

The rule number one for this is: Keep your hands cleans, especially your nails!

Penetration is also a common practice either using your hands (Fingering is real yo!) or using a toy. The best way to be safe is by using a condom or disposable latex gloves (手套乳胶). Condoms are easy to find in China as they can be purchased in most convenience shops. You must remember to use a different condom if you are sharing a toy (Yes, lesbians can like toys.They can be fun and it is ok).

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Three:  Tribbing or Tribadism

Yes, People, scissoring is a thing and if you don´t believe it you have been doing it wrong!

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Unfortunately, there is not really a good way to have safe sex when you practice tribbing when both genitals are into direct contact but there are other areas of your body´s partner that can work for tribbing as this is not exclusive of only genitals vs genitals. Just avoid direct contact.

Alright my Lalas, keep it safe, keep it clean and enjoy your sexuality! No judgment here!

Side Note: No matter if you’re using a mouth, toys, or fingers, don’t go from an anus to a vagina. There are all sorts of bacteria that belong in a butt and not in a vagina so don’t mix them!

 

 

Do you wanna get test it and you don´t know where to go? 

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Shenzhen Shekou Medical Center, this is a clinic where they speak English and have a good appointment service and usually accepts insurance if you are not covered they also have a good price for services  – English Services 

5th Floor, Tower A, Wanrong Building, Gongye 4th Rd, Nanshan District, Shenzhen
深圳市南山区南海大道和工业四路交汇处万融大厦A座5层
Tel:(0755) 8666 4776
Shenzhen Vista-SK Medical Center, this clinic do a smear test for girls, it is a must when you reach the age of 25. This clinic also accepts insurance (but always confirm first), if you don´t have insurance it may be an expensive option.   English Services 
Lvl 4, Bldg 4C, Shenzhen Software Industry Base, Xuefu Rd, Nanshan District SHENZHEN PRC 518054
软件产业基地4栋C座裙楼4层深圳市南山区学府路邮编:518054
+86 755 3689 9833
Shekou People´s Hospital Shekou, I have been going to this clinic for years now and they have good service, the price is very good for a non-international hospital and the results are very fast
Shenzhen, Shekou Goneyequ 7th Road  # 36  (Side to Nanhai Road two blocks before Shekou Walmart)
地址:深圳市蛇口工业区七路36号 总机:0755-21606999
The University of Hong Kong-Shenzhen Hospital, This is another good hospital  English and Chinese service 
The University of Hong Kong – Shenzhen Hospital, 1, Haiyuan 1st Road, Futian District, Shenzhen, Guangdong, P.R.C. Appointment Hotline:0755-86913366
广东深圳市福田区海园一路(白石路与侨城东路交汇)香港大学深圳医院
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SZUMMER PRIDE: Wet & Wild Review

 

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This article was written by a paying guest for this event and was not written by the owner of this blog.

The sunny beaches of Rainbow Bay in Dapeng, Shenzhen were the perfect setting for an uproarious weekend of raucous fun and endless dancing, and thanks to a dedicated team of volunteers the promised event was pulled off without a hitch.  Whether they had a hand in also ensuring the perfect weather is contestable.

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The venue was St. Tropez hotel whose main feature was a large blue swimming pool easily able to accommodate every guest who had an inkling for a dunking.  The water felt clean and clear without a chemical tang and was deep enough for the early-risers to dive in and refresh or for happy screamers to fall in as they were pushed from the side.  The circular bar in the main room offered lots of space for casual morning conversations and intimate late night laughter, and then when the disco lights turned on the floor provided ample room for dancers of every variety to strut their stuff.

The rooms on site were spacious, sound-resistant and fully airconditioned with large showers, Western toilets for the comfort of many of the guests and wide, soft beds.  The smaller cabins just outside the main building were a less auspicious affair with firmer, narrower beds and traditional toilet facilities but the quality of condition and cleanliness was still very high.

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For party-goers staying elsewhere, the choices ranged in price and quality depending on proximity to the Bay which was gated off, requiring a fairly long walk or taxi ride if outside, but directions and assistance were offered on-demand for any who requested it.

The beach itself was long and sandy, very comfortable to walk on, and the sea water warm and calm.  The beach was mostly clean throughout the day but as the evening gave way and beachgoers departed rubbish would pile up near the sea wall which would then be picked up by the high tide.  This, unfortunately, meant a morning swim was peppered by bits of human refuse, spoiling an otherwise wonderful beach experience.

And of the party itself, the music was endless and intoxicating, sound levels managed to ensure that it wasn’t too loud but then ramping up late into the night when passions ran hot.  The food on offer was very satisfying with a mix to suit many tastes ranging from a full meal of black beans with beef and rice to salads and pastry snacks to satiate the peckish mid-afternoon time.  The drinks menu offered five cocktails but only one beer and a selection of soft drinks and mineral water.

The main attractions were the guest DJ Thiago Oliveira and Japanese dancers Susumu and Alex.  Thiago’s mixing was on-point, both nights soundtracks luring almost everyone onto the dance floor.  And the boys with the bods were extremely popular and incredibly friendly, joining in with the pool shenanigans, chatting and having photographs with anyone who asked before providing a fantastic show on the pedestals.

 

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But the biggest praise must go to the organizers who made the weekend happen: Alex, Alessandro and their team of foreign and local volunteers were totally unfazed by every query, panic or disruption and handled everyone with the kind of equality that Pride is meant for.  They were the first up, the last to bed and did it all with a smile on their faces.  I suspect they enjoyed themselves just as much as everyone else but without their astounding dedication the weekend could have been such a disappointment.

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It was unfortunate that Monday’s departure was marred by heavy traffic meaning people were either extremely late getting home or forced to find alternative means but in the end the party spirit lived on and those that waited it out gathered round the KTV machine and burnt the wick just a little bit longer for a memory that I am sure will never be forgotten by many of the guests.

 

 

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Pride Film Night

Date: 21st of June 2018   Place: Evil-Duck  Address: Shuiwei 5th street, number 76. Shuiwei wu jie , 76 dong. 福田区水围五街21号76栋

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Evil-Duck, the quirky bar, and eatery in Shuiwei Village, will play host to Pride Film Night, which combines a film viewing upstairs with a social mixer downstairs, with craft beer and cider, mouth-watering meals and snacks, and a chance to discuss LGBT movies and culture, or just relax and enjoy the music of Shenzhen favourite DJ Max Pump.

 

 

Saturgays: Closing Party 

Date: 23nd of June 2018  10pm Place: Ciyuntang, Shop 119, Block B, Xihai Mingzhu (near Taoyuan metro) 西海明珠花园119商铺 慈云堂(近桃园站)

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Queer Eye Reboot: Gay Town, USA

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The Queer Eye for the Straight Guy reboot has a whole new cast and location and the second season just dropped (can we say “dropped” for TV shows??) on Netflix. The new Fab 5 are a diverse, fun team, and while the stories of their nominees vary from episode to episode, exploring friendships, cuisine, family, skincare, loss, hair, race, fashion, and more, the theme that weaves the show together is number one the Gay Agenda: Love.

The original Queer Eye was set in New York – a city known worldwide for its diversity. The world has changed since the original show began in 2003. The LGBTQ+ community has seen more acceptance, but also new setbacks, and the new series is relevant and fresh. The reboot is set in the southern US, based out of Atlanta, Georgia.  It takes us to small town USA, a very different experience.

Season 2 Episode 1: God Bless Gay

In the first episode of season 2, the fab five takes over the small town of Gay, Georgia to help a woman named Tammye complete a community center and welcome her gay son, Myles, back to church. While Tammye has come around to accepting her son, he is still paralyzed by fear of judgement from the rest of the church members.

Tammye emanates love to all those around her, yet we can see Myles still struggles to live. His room is a mess, a visual reflection of his feelings. With the support of five other queers, however, he is able to clean himself and his room up and bravely attend an event at the church by the end of the episode. They make the point that when you are struggling to find your own place, you must seek it out, because those communities won’t magically find you. As an example they bring him to sing with the Atlanta LGBTQ+ choir, giving him the gift of spiritual music, which he had lost when he left the church after coming out.

This episode resonated with me for many reasons. Watching Myles’s transformation touched me because most of us know how impossible it is to take care of yourself when you feel unwelcome by your community. Bobby (the designer of the show) refuses to go into the church at the beginning of the episode because he has been so hurt by church in the past. Growing up in a small religious town myself, I was bullied by Christian kids at my school and that experience turned me away from any kind of church for years. But watching this episode, hearing the gorgeous gospel music, and listening to Tammye’s speech about acceptance at the end of the episode reminded me that we can all work to break down these constructed barriers and find beauty in each other’s passions. Just as a small-town religious woman can learn to appreciate gay love, so can the fab five learn to appreciate the power and love in her church community.

The Future

Moving along into the season, episode 2 follows the love story of the cutest straight couple. Episode three gives a shy Mexican dad the makeover he needs to feel confident enough to play with the other dads from his kids’ school. Every episode so far has give me a big AWWWW and I recommend this show for some light during dark times.

I am touched by the show’s representation of our community and its constant reminders that no matter who we are we should be caring, beautiful, and lovely for ourselves as well as to each other. I am grateful for the increasing amount of queer and POC content appearing, and this show inspires me to create more! If you want to contribute by writing a blog to share with us, contact us – we are always supportive of new voices!