Hello Lalas, I’m back and with my return, I bring a topic that may be controversial for some people but I want to open the dialogue within the community because I feel that the purpose of Representation and visualization has been diverted.
Let’s start with Scarlett Johansson, maybe everyone by listening to the name we can know who she is and what movies she has been in, which are not only Marvel movies, she is a US actress, she is the best-paid actress in Hollywood with a career in More than 20 years, not only is she a veteran in the world of acting, she is someone who has training in dance and singing, she has won 1 British Academy Film Award, 4 Film Critics Awards, 1 Gotham Independent Film Award, 1 Tony Award and others . Scarlett is also a recognized activist who has supported movements such as #Metoo, is also a recognized Feminist in favor of the equal rights of women.
Now, why have I decided to make a brief introduction about Scarlett?
You probably know that Scarlett, originally, was chosen to play the role of Dante “Tex” Grill, in “Rub & Tug”, a transsexual man from the United States who was not only a Gangster, he also owned a massage parlor and died in the jail.
The news that Scarlett was chosen to interpret, in a biographical film, a transsexual man was not well received by the community. Why? Scarlett is a woman and is heterosexual, it is not the first time that she is involved in the controversy since previously it happened with her movie “Ghost in the Shell” even though in the original comic the character is a robot that is not specified to have Asian features and besides everything is internationally known that Japanese cartoons and sleeves represent their characters with non-Asian characteristics, returning to the topic the community of transsexuals has raised its voice regarding the few opportunities for transsexual people to have leading roles in movies .
Now, for me this topic was confusing and I had to talk to different people to understand the point of view of transsexual people and I want to think that I understood that what the transsexual community looks for are two things “Visualization and Representation” and it is something that everyone we should have. However, the following comes to my mind: If a transsexual man is an actor, should he only act in roles of transsexual men? Should Gay men only act in roles of gay men?
The answer is NO, and for me, it is a resounding NO because then this is a thing called “Paradox”. Gay men and women should be able to play roles based on their talent and not their sexual orientation and another question. Does not the LGBT community deserve + movies with quality performances? For me, the answer is Yes.
To talk about this I will give the example of the following: Eddie Redmayne, heterosexual, I interpret a transsexual woman in the movie “The Danish Girl”, Jaret Leto, straight and Oscar winner, I play a transsexual woman in “Dallas Buyer Club” , both actors gave quality performances that not only earned them the applause of the public but awards for the quality of their work, now let’s talk about the opposite Neil Patrick Harris, openly homosexual, is a well-known actor who has played mostly roles of heterosexual characters and what is his acting talent what has led him to be in different plays and musicals as well as being the host of the Emmys Awards and Academy Awards and is one of the 100 most influential people in the world of entertainment.
What is the problem with Scarlett then ?, I personally do not see any problem, is a quality actress, recognized and that would have given much more visualization and representation to a topic that is still making its way, as Heath Ledger did in Brokeback Mountain.
Now, let’s learn a little about the most popular Lala, at the moment, in the world: Ruby Rose.
Ruby Rose, is a DJ, model, TV presenter, and actress. She is from Australia and became famous after work as a presenter on MTV Australia. Ruby Rose began her career as an actress in 2008, 10 years of career, in a film called Suite for Fleur, was in two seasons of Orange is the New Black and had appearances in films like: Resident Evil: The Final Chapter, XXX : Return of Xander Cage, John Wick Chapter 2, Pitch Perfect 3 and The Meg.
His career has been short and with little presence to show his acting ability, personally, I think he is a person who does not stop being the eternal model beautiful, with tattoos and sexually fluid but maybe it is because he has not yet reached the role that Allows showing your acting ability. Why do I talk about Ruby Rose?
Ruby Rose has been chosen to be Batwoman, iconic character in DC comics, openly lesbian and badass, the series belongs to The CW who is already known for its different series based on DC Comics characters.
Here I will give my personal opinion, not as an expert in film that I am not, but as a great fan of comics that I have been since I was very small: Ruby Rose is beautiful, I do not know her but surely it must be super fun hanging out with her but she is not a good actress and her flat way of interpreting in each movie or series that I have seen has left me with a bad taste in the mouth as to how Batwoman will perform and it is here where I think we are sacrificing acting quality.
There is a huge list of openly LGBT + actresses who have acting quality but there are also a lot of acting heterosexual actresses who could represent Batwoman and make it iconic (Xena of Lucy, anyone?)
Anyway! This is my opinion, let me know what you think by leaving a comment. Follow our blog and as they say out there
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Hello My dear Lalas and boys, inbetweeners !
I am back one more time with a post and this time to talk to you about our first LaLa Meeting! Yeah! *jumping around my room*
I finally got my shit together and I organize a Private Cinema Function with few of the Lala Girls in Shenzhen and it was successful! Not only the place was great, we had good food, good company, a lot of jokes and we watch a very weird movie that it was only fun to watch because of all of the comments we did.
What Movie did we watch?
ANATOMY OF A LOVE SEEN
Did we like it? I would say 9 people didn’t like it and 1 person enjoyed it ! So we give this movie 1 LalaStar out of 5! *5 stars is the best and higher
Where Did we watch it?
A lot of people may not know this but it is very easy to rent private rooms that work just to watch movies, any movie you like, you can bring your laptop or USB and you can get connected to the projector and be ready to go! We got a big room because we were 10 people but we could easily fit another 5! The place was clean, full of pillows, with AC, super easy to find by taxi or metro and PRIVATE! (Which is important because there is a lot of tabu in China bout LGTB Film)
Bellow our official Photo!
If you cannot Spot me! it is because I took the photo
You all know about this blog, either you are a follower, a writer, a member of the LGTB+ in Shenzhen or China and I am trying to do something different (at least in English) I want to start something I call LalasProfile, which is post about real lalas or members of the LGTB+, with successful stories in China (not just Shenzhen but we will start there), it is not going to be easy but I am sure we can all start somewhere, specially because not everyone can be very open, but if you know anyone that their story is worth to tell to inspire others contact me
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I received a comment on my previous post “How to overcome these obstacles”, well I won’t be able to give you the perfect answer but I can share my story and how my partner and I overcome them together!
Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place you go to give, and not a place you go to take.
I would like to share 10 points with you before we go to the topic of how to overcome those obstacles. It’s not just 10 points but also things I do believe in.
Points above are the things I keep close when I enter a relationship, I’m not saying I live my life of 10 points but I do keep my head up and would like to receive what I give in a relationship, no relationship will ever be a happy one if one partner always gives more.
Now, lets take this step by step through all the points I mentioned in my previous post:
This is only from my point of view and I’m sure it won’t be the perfect solution for you or maybe you will even find a better way to deal with these obstacles. Everyone is different, everyone behave differently, if you truly know your partner you would know how to treat / overcome a situation.
“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
― Bob Marley
No problem is too big to solve. Feel free to contact our LaLa group anytime if you have your own story to tell of how you deal with these situations.
Ever travelled to another country and end up dating someone there? Different culture, different nationality, different ways; everything different that you are use too.
My traveling days starting when I were still a young teenager by the age of 19, my first location were USA; I never really experienced the live of being in a relationship but more exploring since I just ended a 2 year relationship. Getting use to the culture and people it weren’t that different from where I were from, except the cars driving on the opposite side and money currency. I had one year to play around, date, have fun and just focus on myself!
Things changed a bit when I entered Asia.
The culture, people, scenery, food, music, night life, restaurants everything were quite different and took me quite a while to get use to everything, except one thing and that will be chop sticks, I still cant quite get the hang of picking up noodles with two sticks.
Then the relationship part came along, now that throw me totally off the bus.
When you first get a glimpse of that one girl in the club or restaurant or somewhere you totally didn’t think or expect you will meet the one you will totally fall in love with the moment you start talking to them, well that do happen!
In the beginning everything is sunshine and roses, trying so hard to get their attention, going on dates, spending more time together until you both start falling in love and taking it to the next step after a few months. To be honest, this first few days, weeks, months isn’t really “you” getting to know the other person but most just trying so hard and suddenly when they have the person, then the trying stops; well that’s just my opinion, and it shouldn’t be like that!
Well now the relationship part starts and you are getting to know your partner more and more, it can either continue to be sunshine and roses or a few fights will occur. Remember the differences? Here is a few I know of in my own experience:
There is so much more I can add, and I’m sure you can too but again in my opinion, if you are really crazy, madly in love or either love your partner you will find a way around all the bullet points and meet each other in the middle, I were lucky enough to find my one who were willing to find me in the middle as well.
I’m not saying it is the easiest thing ever to enter a relationship with someone totally opposite from you but you do get that one who will make it quite easy for you facing all these difficulties, well maybe you won’t even call them difficulties, but just another step you have to talk about and solve, it can be easy if there is communication in your relationship, that is the most important thing!
Ive been in my relationship for quite a while and we do face difficulties, not just big ones but small ones also, such as; misunderstanding each other, language barrier, jealousy, eating habits ….
But we do meet each other in the middle and solve the problem right there and then.
This is all from my point of few but I’m sure you have your own story to tell or even add a few to my story, or even disagree to a few things. All I’m 100% sure about is love has no barrier and no “culture difference or any of the points I mentioned” is too big if you truly do like someone, you will make it work!
Original Post source: SZP Team
继去年11月荣获由That’s PRD颁发的深圳最佳活动奖之后，深圳骄傲大家庭又接到了好消息！在1月21号举办的PFLAG深圳分会年会上，主持人向约200位热爱公益的朋友们公布了2017年最佳合作伙伴奖得主，就是咱们组织人们：SZUMMER PRIDE组委会！
After winning the Event of the Year Award at That’s Shenzhen annual award ceremony last November, more great news arrived today. At the Annual Meeting of PFLAG Shenzhen, 200 supporters witnessed the announcement of their Partner Organisation of the Year award…that’s right, it’s your team of organisers, the SZUMMER PRIDE committee!
PFLAG holds events such as outdoor sports, dating and discussion groups throughout the year, aiming to improve the lives of the LGBTQI community, promoting happy families and a tolerant society. The Shenzhen chapter has fully supported SZUMMER PRIDE in the past, and we are excited about an even deeper cooperation in the future.
2017 SZUMMER PRIDE组委会领奖
SaturGays was established in November 2016 by Shane Ryan and Emma Winfield as there were very limited options for LGBT friendly events.
Since then, they have thrown various parties, all with unique themes. For Halloween, they teamed up with a couple of others to host Rocky Horror Halloween Kiki and, in December, they threw a Sexy Santa party.
Last summer, SaturGays joined the SZUMMER PRIDE committee to throw the award winning SZUMMER PRIDE. They will be doing the same this year.
SaturGays are proud to announce that on 27th January 2018, they will be hosting Lollipop at Magma’s Dolores Park.
As always, there will be top entertainment, great drinks and a fabulous atmosphere.
Scan the QR code to purchase your tickets before it’s too late!
Location: 深圳南山区蛇口工业三路南海意库2栋101 Dolores Park Shekou NH E-Cool Industrial 3RD RD. Building 2#101 Shekou
Closest Metro: Shekou Lline SeaWorld Stop Exit C 蛇口线海上世界出口C
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