I received a comment on my previous post “How to overcome these obstacles”, well I won’t be able to give you the perfect answer but I can share my story and how my partner and I overcome them together!
Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place you go to give, and not a place you go to take.
I would like to share 10 points with you before we go to the topic of how to overcome those obstacles. It’s not just 10 points but also things I do believe in.
Points above are the things I keep close when I enter a relationship, I’m not saying I live my life of 10 points but I do keep my head up and would like to receive what I give in a relationship, no relationship will ever be a happy one if one partner always gives more.
Now, lets take this step by step through all the points I mentioned in my previous post:
This is only from my point of view and I’m sure it won’t be the perfect solution for you or maybe you will even find a better way to deal with these obstacles. Everyone is different, everyone behave differently, if you truly know your partner you would know how to treat / overcome a situation.
“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
― Bob Marley
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The morning sun lights up the turquoise sea but this season’s bachelor, Garth, looks grim as he strides across the black beach. We’ve followed him across the world, from LA all the way here to Costa Rica where he must now dump one unreasonably hot babe and propose to the other.
Emily is the sassy one. With her long black hair, dusting of freckles, and eerily golden eyes, she looks the part of the sweetheart but her tongue is razor-sharp. We’re happy she made it this far, not only because she is the only one who wouldn’t put up with Garth’s shit, but also because it’s been a relief to have a non-white character in the bachelor franchise. We see her beneath a flower-covered trellis, white dress fluttering in the sea breeze.
Adilyn has even less personality than Garth. This has benefitted her in the show because she has avoided conflict with the other contestants. Her tiny waist, platinum blonde hair, and huge boobs have done the rest of the work for her. She’s wearing a black bikini, standing under another trellis somewhere down the beach.
Garth follows a pathway of rose petals toward his soon-to-be ex. It’s Adilyn.
“Adilyn. We’ve had so many beautiful experiences together and I have developed real feelings for you over the last few months. But this is goodbye for us. I’m sorry.” Tears slide down her cheeks but this show is supposedly about love, not breakups, so we move right along to his scene with Emily.
“Emily. I took this journey to find love, and you are that love. I have fallen harder than I ever could have imagined and I need to be with you for the rest of my life.”
“Garth I – “ Emily hesitates. Garth looks like a puppy as he reaches for her hand. She catches her breath as their fingers intertwine. “I have felt things I never believed possible. I too have fallen completely in love.”
A smile breaks across Garth’s face and he drops to one knee, presenting her with a ring. “Will you be my bride?” She takes the whole box.
“No Garth. I can’t.” He’s shocked but she turns away from him, kicks her heels off and runs down the beach still clutching the jewelry box. She’s approaches a helicopter, its blades whirring. Adilyn is in the helicopter.
Emily screams, “Adilyn! Adilyn!” She sprints, closing the distance between her and the helicopter but it’s already taking off. Emily falls to her knees beneath it, still screaming Adilyn’s name she holds the open ring box above her head. “I love you Adilyn!”
Adilyn sees Emily down on the beach and her hand flies to the window. “Turn around!” She commands the pilot. “I have to go back!” The helicopter circles and lands. Adilyn leaps out and into Emily’s arms. Emily again falls to her knees and presents the ring to Adilyn.
“Adilyn, I have been in love with you since the moment we met. Through all these weeks you have been the best part of my day every day. I can’t bear the thought of leaving without you. Will you marry me?”
“Yes! Yes! I love you too!” Emily slides the ring on Adilyn’s finger. Adilyn pulls her up and they kiss. The credits roll.
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